STOP The DRAMA!

Drama is defined as: an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances.

Through some personal analysis, I found that no matter how hard I tried I still found myself surrounded by these series of unexpected events or circumstances that usually left me depleted and emotionally drained. Throughout my entire life, I don’t think that I have ever had one year where there was no drama in it. I had to take a good hard look at myself and figure out why. I found that my empathic tendencies became a vault where people’s emotions, thoughts, life, etc. were sucked in and somehow I became the keeper of these things. I did this subconsciously.

I had to break these habits to ensure that whatever work I did as an empath was healing and restorative for everyone involved.

I had to make sure that I wasn’t a vessel for drama. It meant I had to protect my sacred space. In order to do this I had to learn some ways to stop attracting drama into my personal life. I wanted the empath in me to only focus on healing and restorative work with clients. I wanted to use my energy and power to help others. It meant breaking bad personal habits that I think we all do and we all go through. These are the lessons I learned and I share with you in order to motivate you breaking free from this stronghold called ‘drama’.

Here are my tips to STOP the DRAMA!

  • As a giver you want to share with others. You want to let them know they are not alone. You want people to learn from your mistakes. However, the more you share the more you give of yourself. The more you give away. Some things are sacred. Keep them close. Stop sharing too much.
  • We must know that if someone doesn’t ask for your help, then you shouldn’t give it. I am not saying that under certain circumstances giving your help may be warranted, but most of the time don’t. We must learn to mind our own business.
  • Be honest, even when it’s tough to do so. Don’t play games with people. Being authentic and raw is hard, but when you are honest with someone whether they want to hear it or not, you are giving them TRUTH. Use tact of course, but don’t play games and don’t beat around the bush.
  • We want to hold onto friends, family members or partners that are toxic, because we invested time in them. But how much more time are you going to invest in a toxic relationship that will never change? Let it go.
  • I am Bipolar and suffer from Depression. I am proud to say that through exercise, food, and natural and holistic remedies I combat my mental health conditions with great success. But some days are easier than others. Part of my DNA is to overanalyze and it’s exacerbated by my mental health condition. However, I have also found that many of the people I work with when it comes to my Spiritual Healing work and Life Coaching also tend to overanalyze. Maybe society has engrained this in us. Whatever the reason, everyone does it. I recommend you don’t overanalyze things. Take time away from whatever it is, before you spend too much time analyzing it and create a situation where there needs to be none.
  • Positivity goes a long way. I am not one of those ‘let’s always be happy & your problems will go away’ type of people. But why is it easier to choose the negative over the positive? Choose the positive. Lead with that first.
  • Forgive yourself. Don’t stay in the victim mentality. Fight for yourself by not blaming yourself. Shit happens and that’s life. Pick yourself back up and keep moving forward. Don’t stay stagnate.
  • Don’t let other people’s opinions weigh you down. They don’t pay your bills, they don’t wear your shoes, they don’t live your life. Their opinion holds no weight.
  • PLEASE find something that brings you joy. I promise that a hobby is a good thing. Find something that is just yours and do it alone. Take that time for yourself.
  • Don’t participate in anything that makes you uncomfortable. I have stopped people in mid-conversation to let them know I was not participating. I don’t want it and I want to focus on my own life. It’s not selfish!

What are some ways you have stopped the drama in your life?

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